Thursday, July 28, 2011
When Couples Fight All The Time... 
When couples say they fight all the time, the surface issues are only the tip of the iceberg. If, say, someone forgets to take out the trash or comes home 15 minutes late and the other partner blows his/her top, s/he's not only reacting to the wrong committed today, s/he's also reacting to all the times s/he felt previously let down by the other partner. Not only that, (believe it or not) s/he is also reacting to stored up emotional disappointment from before you two even met, like from childhood. This may seem farfetched but it's true.
So if you're girlfriend gets mad and blows up over what seems like a relatively small thing, what she's really reacting to is a pattern of feeling unloved, unappreciated, and misunderstood. And the current problem gets blown out of proportion because those feelings have been building up over her lifetime and never gotten resolved.
http://www.what-women-want-from-men.com/couplesfight.html
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