It's complicated.

If that someone needs to read your blog, tweets or tumblr just to know what is going through your mind, that person isn't worth it at all. &If it is you who have to make them read them cuz you realize they don't have a clue of what's going on then you'd better just build a bridge, get over them, and move on.

Love doesn't look very complicated on the very outset, does it? You probably only have to go through the slightest amount of intricacy at the initial stage of your relationship. Everything seems so perfectly fine, so perfect that you would have never imagined it to be true... so perfect that sometimes it scares you. Yet as time passes and as the the both of you get to know one another better, you will in all likelihood find yourself being entangled in the web of dilemmas and complexities. The luckier pairs might get to enjoy the first stage a tad bit longer before they reach the latter for honeymoon will sure to cease and aggravation (the stage which I'd like to dub the 'Judgement Day for Lovers' where you get to play the role of God, decreeing the fate of your lover and whether or not the relationship should sustain) will find your at your doorstep when all is said and done. There is no escape to that.

This is the time when you might like the 'There should be a relationship status on Facebook that says 'I don't even know what's going on'' quote on Facebook. We're human. We're predictable. We will doubtlessly undergo the same stages but where we will end up at fortunately differs.

The duration of a relationship does NOT depend solely on one person. Let's just say there is this couple, and one of them happens to be very easy-going and insouciant about things and the other is exceptionally caring and concerned about every little detail. The latter might turn from a very romantic lover into a horrendous hard-boiled and somewhat uptight monster. You get stalked, you are restricted from hanging out or meeting with certain people, your partner has problem with you chatting with your ex-s, jealousy and tension starts to soar and it seems as though it is impossible for the both of you to communicate without having any sorta misunderstanding or argument for even a day. Everything seems to go haywire. Nothing feels right.

You feel as though he/she is the worst, the most not understanding person you've ever met. Even worse than your ex who had cheated on you.

You go home, take a chill pill, sit down alone on the couch and interrogate yourself. Moments later you realize how gravely wrong you were and then you start feeling remorseful. You call each other up, or, you might sit down by the phone bitterly hoping that he/she will call first, and when you get to hear each other's voice, everything feels so perfectly in place again. It is as though you've just found the lost piece to the puzzle, the lost key to the lock. And that very special feeling goes on..... until one of you decided to do something remarkably 'smart' again.

Quarrels soon take place again. It is practically a cycle. Hey, imagine going through that for the next 50 years of your life. *clear throat*

Just like what's being said in the awe-inspiring video Strangers, again (posted below), there are only two options after the both of you decided to get together for real, real as in a serious relationship kinda real. It is either you guys get married or break up.

Now things look much simpler, don't they? *roll eyes*

It is really easy to say, "Aiya, no need to break up one lah. Settle the problem then can already lah," but who's gonna be the one putting his/her pride aside, settling the problem? Who will be the one apologizing first? Who will be willing to take the blame? Really, it is much simpler said than done.

If you're in a relationship, you're probably somewhere near this stage right now. You know for sure that honeymoon's over and now, you are being hit hard by the train of reality. You have to choose between that two options. If you think breaking up is easy, you'd better go hang yourself because or else, it will be all the fucking sweet memories that are gonna haunt you. And if you choose to hang on and get married one fine day (that is if 2012 isn't gonna be the end of the world T_T), you have to have more patience, understanding and consideration. On top of all, you need to be truthful and loyal.

Truthful &loyal = Don't fucking flirt around. Don't reminisce about your ex-s and your past. They're your past for a reason. Don't hang out with people of the opposite sex whom you barely know. It gives the other party lotsa pressure. Don't lie. Just because you're busy you don't just ignore calls and texts and pretend that you're already asleep. That's a freaking cheap thing to do. And the list goes on...

Let's face the fact. People nowadays just wanna fuck around. Girls are mostly gold-diggers and guys? They just want to satisfy their lust.

If you're into a serious relationship you have gotta put your head in it. Don't ever let your partner down. Don't disappoint them. Or else, just let them go. Let them find someone more worthy and let them live happily.

I am not a love guru but I definitely have learn and been through enough to be giving advises. Take it or leave it :)

Eaten @ 2:14 AM | 0 comments

If that someone needs to read your blog, tweets or tumblr just to know what is going through your mind, that person isn't worth it at all. &If it is you who have to make them read them cuz you realize they don't have a clue of what's going on then you'd better just build a bridge, get over them, and move on.

Love doesn't look very complicated on the very outset, does it? You probably only have to go through the slightest amount of intricacy at the initial stage of your relationship. Everything seems so perfectly fine, so perfect that you would have never imagined it to be true... so perfect that sometimes it scares you. Yet as time passes and as the the both of you get to know one another better, you will in all likelihood find yourself being entangled in the web of dilemmas and complexities. The luckier pairs might get to enjoy the first stage a tad bit longer before they reach the latter for honeymoon will sure to cease and aggravation (the stage which I'd like to dub the 'Judgement Day for Lovers' where you get to play the role of God, decreeing the fate of your lover and whether or not the relationship should sustain) will find your at your doorstep when all is said and done. There is no escape to that.

This is the time when you might like the 'There should be a relationship status on Facebook that says 'I don't even know what's going on'' quote on Facebook. We're human. We're predictable. We will doubtlessly undergo the same stages but where we will end up at fortunately differs.

The duration of a relationship does NOT depend solely on one person. Let's just say there is this couple, and one of them happens to be very easy-going and insouciant about things and the other is exceptionally caring and concerned about every little detail. The latter might turn from a very romantic lover into a horrendous hard-boiled and somewhat uptight monster. You get stalked, you are restricted from hanging out or meeting with certain people, your partner has problem with you chatting with your ex-s, jealousy and tension starts to soar and it seems as though it is impossible for the both of you to communicate without having any sorta misunderstanding or argument for even a day. Everything seems to go haywire. Nothing feels right.

You feel as though he/she is the worst, the most not understanding person you've ever met. Even worse than your ex who had cheated on you.

You go home, take a chill pill, sit down alone on the couch and interrogate yourself. Moments later you realize how gravely wrong you were and then you start feeling remorseful. You call each other up, or, you might sit down by the phone bitterly hoping that he/she will call first, and when you get to hear each other's voice, everything feels so perfectly in place again. It is as though you've just found the lost piece to the puzzle, the lost key to the lock. And that very special feeling goes on..... until one of you decided to do something remarkably 'smart' again.

Quarrels soon take place again. It is practically a cycle. Hey, imagine going through that for the next 50 years of your life. *clear throat*

Just like what's being said in the awe-inspiring video Strangers, again (posted below), there are only two options after the both of you decided to get together for real, real as in a serious relationship kinda real. It is either you guys get married or break up.

Now things look much simpler, don't they? *roll eyes*

It is really easy to say, "Aiya, no need to break up one lah. Settle the problem then can already lah," but who's gonna be the one putting his/her pride aside, settling the problem? Who will be the one apologizing first? Who will be willing to take the blame? Really, it is much simpler said than done.

If you're in a relationship, you're probably somewhere near this stage right now. You know for sure that honeymoon's over and now, you are being hit hard by the train of reality. You have to choose between that two options. If you think breaking up is easy, you'd better go hang yourself because or else, it will be all the fucking sweet memories that are gonna haunt you. And if you choose to hang on and get married one fine day (that is if 2012 isn't gonna be the end of the world T_T), you have to have more patience, understanding and consideration. On top of all, you need to be truthful and loyal.

Truthful &loyal = Don't fucking flirt around. Don't reminisce about your ex-s and your past. They're your past for a reason. Don't hang out with people of the opposite sex whom you barely know. It gives the other party lotsa pressure. Don't lie. Just because you're busy you don't just ignore calls and texts and pretend that you're already asleep. That's a freaking cheap thing to do. And the list goes on...

Let's face the fact. People nowadays just wanna fuck around. Girls are mostly gold-diggers and guys? They just want to satisfy their lust.

If you're into a serious relationship you have gotta put your head in it. Don't ever let your partner down. Don't disappoint them. Or else, just let them go. Let them find someone more worthy and let them live happily.

I am not a love guru but I definitely have learn and been through enough to be giving advises. Take it or leave it :)

Writen @ 2:14 AM | 0 comments